Beating Imposter Syndrome With One Quick Tip

We’ve all been there…. 

In a meeting, feeling like we don’t belong

In a class wondering if we’re the only one who doesn’t get the concept being taught

Sitting across from a prospective client trying to make the sale but doubting every word coming out of your mouth

What do all these scenarios have in common? It’s Imposter Syndrome rearing it’s ugly self doubting head!

Imposter syndrome often comes when we are learning something new, or growing into a new role or position.  It asks “who I am to think I can do this?” or “I don’t really know what I’m doing.”  This doubt creeps in and makes you question yourself, your ability and your value.

If we let these doubts continue, we will soon buy into the narrative that we don’t know, don’t belong, or aren’t really that successful. So, how can we counter imposter syndrome? How can we remind ourselves of the value we bring?

First realize that feeling like an imposter is actually a good thing!  It means you are challenging yourself, pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, learning something new, or growing.  If you were in your comfort zone – the good olde’ comfort zone – where there was nothing new or exciting or challenging – then most likely those self doubts won’t creep up.

After you realize it’s normal to feel this way as you are growing and stretching, you can cut yourself some slack and work at tackling those thoughts.  One easy tip is to create a folder (whether manila folder or in your email) where you keep copies of papers, or your employee evaluations, certifications or diplomas, or praise from a boss or coworker or client. Easily accessible, it’s your “GO YOU!” folder to remind you of the times you did succeed, you did help someone out, you did make that sale, or you did contribute an important idea to that meeting. It’s a collection of some of your achievements and examples of how you’ve influenced friends, or coworkers.  Think of it as validation for why you DO belong, DO know what you’re talking about, and ARE NOT impersonating someone else.

Knowing the truth about yourself, knowing your real value, can squash imposter syndrome before it gets too far.  You will feel more confident in yourself and your ability to learn and grow and stretch yourself. And that will help you feel ready to tackle even more!

Do you have anything you’ve tried that has helped when battling imposter syndrome? 

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