Attachment Styles & Their Impact on Adult Relationships

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Attachment Styles & Their Impact on Adult Relationships

When we think of our current relationships, we may often wonder why we feel safe and connected in some, but in others, we feel anxious or distant. Sound familiar? This idea of the way we connect, or sometimes struggle to connect, with others often traces back to a concept known as attachment styles. These patterns are how we relate to others in society, influenced early in our childhood, that continue to shape our relationships within adulthood.

The good news you ask? Having some clarity of your attachment style can not only help you build healthier connections, but also feel more empowered in your relationships and shift away from generational patterns.

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How to Heal from Betrayal Trauma

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How to Heal from Betrayal Trauma

When someone you trust deeply breaks that trust, it can feel like your whole world has been turned upside down. Your mind may feel like it is spinning, and everything around you can start to seem strange or unreal. You might try to talk with your partner about what happened, hoping they will understand your pain. But instead, your emotions may be brushed aside or minimized. You may hear things like, “It’s not that big of a deal,” or “You’re overreacting.” When this happens, you can start to doubt your own feelings and thoughts. You may wonder if you are the problem or if you are imagining things. Slowly, you begin to lose trust in yourself.

You may also feel constantly on edge, watching for signs of what your partner might do next. You might check their phone, social media, or other resources more than you ever have before. You might feel suspicious, anxious, or scared, even if you were never this way in the past. As everything changes, it may feel like you no longer recognize yourself—or your partner.

All of these reactions are common. In fact, they are normal responses to something called betrayal trauma.

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Using the Gottman Method for Couples : How The Sound Relationship House Can Improve Relationships

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Using the Gottman Method for Couples : How The Sound Relationship House Can Improve Relationships

Relationships in general can be difficult, especially in a marriage relationship. We often think if we have love that will be enough. While it is essential, it is not always enough. In most marriages there is often conflict, miscommunication and emotional distance that can enter in even between partners that are devoted to each other. This is where the Gottman Method can be helpful to couples wanting to strengthen their marriage. The Gottman Method is a research-based approach to relationships that has helped thousands of couples build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.

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How Trauma Affects Relationships

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How Trauma Affects Relationships

Have you ever seen a new home? Everything feels fresh and full of possibilities. There’s excitement about making it your own. But as with any new house, the foundation goes through a process of settling. The soil underneath tightens and shifts, causing the house to slowly reach its final position. This is normal, but it can lead to small cracks in walls, uneven floors, or doors that don’t close properly. Most of the time, this settling stops on its own. However, if the house settles too much or unevenly, it can lead to bigger problems, requiring repairs to keep it stable. When this happens, homeowners can feel frustrated and discouraged about their once-exciting new home.

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How Do We Identify Our Needs?

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How Do We Identify Our Needs?

So often when we are feeling frustrated in life with our jobs, families or other relationships, we end up feeling the same thing over and over again but aren’t able to identify in those moments what is familiar. Because of this, we can tend to either ignore those feelings and begin to have a pattern of dealing with that person or circumstance that often leads to feeling those same feelings over and over again without any real resolution or positive outcome. I often talk to clients that knowing how to express and communicate the change we need to feel or see is the first step towards moving into a new pattern of communication.

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