5 Things You're Afraid To Say To Your Therapist (but we want you to!)

5 Things You're Afraid To Say To Your Therapist (but we want you to!)

Many people in therapy have thoughts and questions that they’re unsure of but worry aren’t “appropriate” to talk about or might be awkward.  Sometimes those thoughts and questions are actually very helpful to the therapeutic process and your therapist would welcome them.  Here are 5 things you may be afraid to say to your therapist but they wish you would: 

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Improve Your Self Confidence With These Two Quick Tips

Improve Your Self Confidence With These Two Quick Tips

Self-Confidence. Or, folks may use the term self-esteem or self-trust. Merriam Webster Dictionary defines self-confidence as “confidence in oneself and in one’s powers and abilities.” Recently, many of my clients have been struggling with this in their professional and personal lives, so I decided to shed some light on it here for anyone who is considering therapy but isn’t quite sure yet.

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How To Decrease Intense Panic, Anxiety, & Anger

How To Decrease Intense Panic, Anxiety, & Anger

Lately I’ve been hearing many of my clients say that they know how to cope with emotions like anger and anxiety most of the time, but occasionally these feelings are so strong that they can’t think clearly enough to follow through on the things that usually work for them.  When anger, anxiety, and panic get too overwhelming, the part of our brain that problem solves and makes well informed choices doesn’t get as many of the resources it needs, making it harder to think clearly.  Instead, the emotional parts of the brain get those resources and we might start to feel physical signs of these emotions like, sweating, shallow breathing, crying, and nausea among other things.  We might even feel like we’re having a heart attack or dying.  When this happens, we sometimes get desperate to escape these unpleasant feelings and make choices that down the line can be dangerous or make our situation worse.  This is when we might self-harm, fight with someone we love, break things, or become aggressive.  When this happens, we have to find ways to trick our brain in to realizing that we’re safe so the intensity of these emotions decreases enough for us to think clearly and cope effectively.   The TIPP skill does this, and the best part about it is that it requires very little thinking and works super quickly. 

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Why It's STILL Ok To Not Be Ok

Why It's STILL Ok To Not Be Ok

Earlier this year, I wrote the below blog “Why It’s Ok To Not Be Ok”. Many states were shut down due to COVID, restaurants weren’t open, and everything was being cancelled. Life was hard back then, but it’s still hard now. I am sure many of you (me included!) were hoping we’d be “back to normal” by now, were hoping for a “normal” Thanksgiving, and are disappointed that we are not. We are in the holiday season, and many are unsure how to navigate keeping social distancing and mask wearing in mind. Infection rates are rising, and many fear another shut down.

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6 Ways to Cope When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed

6 Ways to Cope When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed

2020 has been a roller coast of a year for many, including myself!  It was the year of big plans, changes, and aspirations all squashed due to the pandemic, and the many challenges and alterations it brought to life.  The minute we seem to get answers or figure out a routine in this new normal, something changes, and we must pivot and draft a new plan of how to function in a new way of life.  Trying to manage within a pandemic can be very overwhelming.  On top of worrying about normal problems and life issues, there are now bigger matters at hand, most of which we do not have concrete answers to.  Not knowing or having a plan of action can cause us to feel emotionally overwhelmed and fear the worst.  These feelings are normal and can be addressed and worked on.  However sometimes they become overbearing, feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders.  Let’s discuss 6 ways to best move forward when those feelings begin to take over and it feels like you against the world with no end in sight. 

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